"The irony of love is loving the right person at the wrong time and having the wrong person when the time is right and finding out you love someone right after that person walks out of your life. Sometimes, you think you’re already over a person but when you see them smile at you, you’ll suddenly realize that you’re just pretending to be over them just to ease the pain of knowing that they will never be yours again. For some, they think that letting go is one way of expressing how much you love the person. Most relationships tend to fail not because the absence of love. Love is always present. It’s just that one was being loved too much and the other loved too little. We all know that the heart is the center of the body but it beats on the left. Maybe that is the reason why the heart is not always right."
girls.. boys...stop overanalyzing.. it is what it is
"Relationships last long not because they’re destined to last long. Relationships last long because two brave people made a choice - to keep it, to fight for it & to work for it. Meanwhile, other relationships fail not because they’re destined to fail. …They failed because one of the two, or both, made the choice - to set each other free."
if you stop working at relationships, they go away -anonymous
During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, “How do I know if I am with the right person?” I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, “It depends. Is that your boyfrien/husband?” In all seriousness, she answered “How do you know?”
Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind.
Here’s the answer. EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.
Falling in love with your significant other wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love…
Because it’s happening TO YOU.
People in love sometimes say, “I was swept off my feet.” Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.
Falling is love is easy. It’s a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of a relationship, the euphoria of love fades. It’s the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your significant other’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your relationship, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your significant other might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you and your significant other reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown. People blame their significant others for their unhappiness and look outside their relationship for fulfillment.
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work,a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it. I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could.
And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):
THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN RELATIONSHIP IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT’S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It’ll NEVER just happen to you. You can’t “find” LASTING love. You have to “make” it day in and day out. That’s why we have the expression “the labor of love.”
Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your relationship work.
Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your significant other) to succeed with your relationship.
Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships.. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your relationship stronger. It’s a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable…you can “make” love.
Love in a relationship is indeed a “decision”… Not just a feeling ..
“No one falls in love by choice, it is by CHANCE..
No one stays in love by chance, it is by WORK.
And no one falls out of love by chance, it is by choice”